As more and more people are getting diagnosed with autism it is imperative that management interventions can make living and sharing with someone who receives and expends information differently, possible. But does it make it for a satisfactory experience?
I dated someone who was clearly severely affected by the condition, in day to day functions such as washing, sleeping, moving about, communication with strangers, yet they refused to get a diagnosis or seek help. This particular person is an interesting case study but won’t go into detail about him as there were specific parameters that shelled his life, such as a wealthy father, and clearly high functioning autistic family, deluded of their skills and achievements, as a result of the steady funding cycle their father can provide for. They just branded themselves old fashioned yet often highly rude, unknowingly of course, that is exactly the definition of many high functioning identifications.
Many neurotypicals that find themselves in this situation face a lot of challenges, emotional, and ethical for the most.
High functioning autism can mean it is pretty invisible to the eye. Most people will not recognise it unless their own sense of space, mental and social, is intruded unpleasantly.
For most it is recepted as eccentricity, immaturity and awkwardness due to lack of experience.
Caring for someone with high functioning autism in a partnership can be tricky too. Most couples will go to therapy few survive and that is down to drawing fine boundaries, or otherwise risk being drawn into a self centred bubble of existence focused on the person with autism.
A close SEN teacher friend said that autism is a trendy condition.
Speaking to some people in the incredibly supportive different-together forum (please donate), the story, although very much based on love, couldn’t be more different.
It’s the bull in the china shop scenario, but most importantly the attitude of the person affected by the condition is what will make the most impact.
Like in neurotypicals, autistics come in good and negative personalities. It is one thing to be an arsewhole when there is still some body language to read. Being autistic and an arsewhole makes for a lethal combination and explains why so many people with autism end up in the judicial system.
The question is what would bring those with little financial and emotional resource, to identify they need help?
Surely getting reprimanded by the law, is a good incentive to seek a diagnosis? Maybe next time, those with the arrogance to ignore the impact the condition is having on them and those that love them, maybe simply not be as lucky and be left out of the juridical system.